I am a mom of a cutie pie (very biased). And I wanted to share my experiences with others (including my cuties grandparents, great-grandparents, numerous uncles and other relatives). I love being a mom and can't imagine doing anything else.Idea
As I lay awake feeling lost and helpless last night I kept trying to think of things to do. I know this is probably a long shot but my one idea was to ask everyone who loves Griffin to write a letter to him and tell him about your love and about how much you will miss him. Include things you were looking forward to or things you liked about this last month. Then sign it with your first name only and description of how you know James and I. If you do want to do this please do it today and then I will try to print them all out and get them to my caseworker. At the least it will be a way for Griffin to hear all your words of love one last time.
My e-mail (which will only be on here today) is emilyhaughery(at)hotmail(dot)com
posted by Alivia's Momma @ 8:14 AM
12 Comments:
Emily,
I don't know you, James or Griffin but I am certainly praying for you.
Emily -
I am a long-time blog reader and I am devastated to learn of this news. Is there anything that we can do to help you? I don't know Griffin personally but I do have a son and I can't imagine him being taken from me after loving him for that critical first month. I confess that I am angry...very angry. I know that doesn't help anything, but I'm just devastated for what your family is enduring and I want to take action if there is any to take.
I'm not asking you to do any additional work, please don't go out of your way, but if you know of any way that your readers can influence adoption reform or specifically your situation, I hope you'll share it.
I would be happy to participate in your letter campaign, but I know those letters are for Griffin from those who know him personally, so I'm not sure it's appropriate for me to write. I'd love your thoughts on how those of us who don't know Griffin personally could still help in some way.
My prayers and tears are with you. God is good. My prayer is that He will move in the heart of Griffin's birth mother and help her to make a good life decision for that sweet baby.
Emily -
I also am a faithful reader, I was lead to your site from a friend of a friend (my best friend is friends with the bowmans). I have read of your trials over the last few years and your testment and faith in Christ is amazing. I pray that our heavenly Father comforts you during this time, and if at all possible allow Griffin to remain with you... his parents. I have 2 boys and could not imagine what you are going through. Please know that even those of us who don't know you are praying for your family during this time. I echo's others if there is anything that others of us can do... please let us know.
Emily and James -
I don't know you personally, but my parents were friends with James's parents growing up. I grew up in the Philly church, but I'm now in the DE church.
I just wanted you to know that as a long-time blog reader, my family and I are deeply saddened by your news. Our family is crying out to our heavenly Father on your behalf and on the behalf of your precious little Griffin. Lord have mercy!
We will continue to pray for you...
I'm only just seeing this now and I am sick. I just sat here and stared at the screen. I cannot believe this is happening!!! Like your second poster said - I am SO angry!! How DARE this woman do this to your family and to that precious baby who knows you and James as his parents?!!?! I'd like to grab her and shake her.
I'm sorry - I have typed and backspaced and thought maybe I shouldn't say those things, but darnit, it's how I feel!!!
My heart is breaking for you both and for Griffin. I'm so so sorry - my words are so empty, and my heart is so heavy. You have been and will continue to be in my prayers!! Please let us know how you are doing.
You are all in my prayers.
I cannot begin to understand how devastated you and your families must be. I have written and emailed a letter to you to give to your caseworker. I wish that there was something more that I could do. Perhaps others could also write to your caseworker and ask them to make you a "special case" for find another baby if Griffin does leave your loving home but I hope that she changes her mind again.
Ann P.
Emily,
I cannot stop thinking of you and James and little Griffin today. My heart is so heavy. I know that you two were his parents the moment you met him...I know it completely bc I have experienced it. You have given Griffin such a wonderful start. I pray he grows up to know that...I honestly pray you will be the ones to tell him as he gets older. There is nothing that feels right about this....nothing. Praying for yet another miracle. Praying for peace if that miracle isn't what anyone of us thinks it should look like. Please let us know if there is anything you need.
The Parmers
James & Emily - I cannot imagine how you must be feeling right now. I am also very angry that this girl has put you through this torment. How can she be so unsure of what she wants? I hope she will realize that the best decision is to let Griffin stay with you. I am praying for you. Please let me know if there's anything we can do to help.
The LaPortes
My heart breaks for you. Jed was so sad for you he cried.
Our love to you,
Kristin and Jed
We lost our daughter a year ago, and have only just had another child. (She was born the day after Griffin.) I cannot imagine losing her. And to lose two... my spirit almost withers at the thought.
Emily - I don't even know you - but I feel your pain to the tips of my toes. Even my husband was in tears for you and your husband... what more can I say?
I'm praying the birth mother will change her mind (again) and you'll get him back for good. I'm praying Griffin won't be afraid without you. I'm praying you will be able to trust God - and even still visit your little boy. And I'm praying... gosh... just really, REALLY hard for you as a woman and a mother and a wife.
Please keep us posted as much as you feel you can.
With prayers and hugs,
kendall
Emily: Your father spoke about you and your family the other day and I wanted to leave you this message after reading your blogs. God has a special plan for you. Don't ever give up hope. Keep praying. Cathy Bly
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