How to deal

Over the last few years I have had way too much experience with grief. I have been the one grieving and the one struggling to get up each day. I have often felt like I could write a manual on how to deal with me and others who are grieving but I came across this blog today and the author did it for me. Wanted to share this with all of you and thank you for bearing with me in my grief over these last few years.

Just click here to read. I have to say I agree with most, if not all, of what she has written. Obviously I have a bit of a different experience than her since Alivia was 2 and Griffin a month but other than that we have so much in commen.

Thank you to everyone who wrote notes to Griffin. Who knows if they will even get to him but it is worth a shot. I will hopefully have all of the printed tomorrow to drop off and my case worker said she would at least get them to the birth mothers case worker. That is all we can ask for at the moment.

Idea

As I lay awake feeling lost and helpless last night I kept trying to think of things to do. I know this is probably a long shot but my one idea was to ask everyone who loves Griffin to write a letter to him and tell him about your love and about how much you will miss him. Include things you were looking forward to or things you liked about this last month. Then sign it with your first name only and description of how you know James and I. If you do want to do this please do it today and then I will try to print them all out and get them to my caseworker. At the least it will be a way for Griffin to hear all your words of love one last time.

My e-mail (which will only be on here today) is emilyhaughery(at)hotmail(dot)com

Sad

Today at around 11 we got another call from our case worker saying that the birth mother changed her mind again. So tomorrow at one they will come and take Griffin and he will return to his birth family. We are in shock. This last month has been such a joy and we adore our little guy. Please pray.

2 week update

Griffin had his two week check up today and he is doing really well. He weighs 11 lbs 5 oz (thats over a pound more than 2 weeks ago) and is in the 98% for weight. He is 22 inches long (89% for length) and his head is 15 1/2 ( 90% ).

All in all doing great. We love him SOOOOO much and are overwhelmed that he is ours.