I am a mom of a cutie pie (very biased). And I wanted to share my experiences with others (including my cuties grandparents, great-grandparents, numerous uncles and other relatives). I love being a mom and can't imagine doing anything else.weekend update
This weekend was a fun one. We had such a great time with the Spinetti's at IKEA. Even the monsoon couldn't ruin our day. They even came back to our house for some Quizno's. Nice.
Today we went to church (almost made it through the whole service without Alivia breaking down!). We got home, Livi took a nap, I went to the grocery store and James straightened the house (Thanks babe!). Then tonight we celebrated Haughery family birthdays (Bill's 51st and Hannah's 1st) with the fam.
Funny how it doesn't matter what the doctors say life just keeps on going. I find it so strange that everyone elses life is just going along as usual while I feel like we've stepped outside of our lives (even though this is our life now)...like we've taken a wrong exit and can't seem to get back on the highway that everyone else is speeding along on. Wonder if that feeling will ever go away or will it just feel like this until Alivia is well?!
posted by Alivia's Momma @ 9:19 PM
14 Comments:
"Wonder if that feeling will ever go away or will it just feel like this until Alivia is well?!"
"Yes" to both...and "No" to both...
Still praying!
Mary Ann K.
Well, I guess your reality has definitely been altered by Alivia's sickness. May I say that you do a fabulous job of celebrating each moment with her and continuing to live life to the fullest? It would be easy and no one could blame you if you just holed up in the house and ceased living life as normal. But, you haven't. Your energy for your life, with all of it's tragic circumstance, and for just living it to the utmost is amazing. It is really inspiring to me. I am a fearful gal and I often wonder what I would do if I were in your situation? Well, I would hope that I would do all the things that you do...go to parties, take road trips, go to IKEA, learn sign language, eat ice cream. I know you may feel like you are in some parallel universe and life is passing you by, but as someone from the outside looking in....YOU ARE LIVING IT! No one is passing you by!!! That is such a blessing for your little girl!!! Praise the Lord for blessing you with such optimism, energy, creativity and drive!
I have recently been reading Puritan prayers. They are amazing. Here is one titled "Refuge": O Lord, Whose power is infinite and wisdom infallible, order things that they may neither hinder, nor discourage me, nor prove obstacles to the progress of Thy cause. Stand between me and all strife, that no evil befall, no sin corrupt my gifts, zeal, attainments. May I follow duty and not any foolish device of my own. Permit me not to labour at work which Thou wilt not bless, that I may serve thee without disgrace or debt. Let me dwell in Thy most secret place under thy shadow, where is safe impenetrable protection from the arrow that flieth by day, the pestilence that walketh in darkness, the strife of tongues, the malice of ill-will, the hurt of unkind talk, the snares of company, the perils of youth, the temptations of middle life, the moumings of old age, the fear of death. I am entirely dependent upon Thee for support, counsel, consolation. Uphold me by Thy free Spirit, and may I not think it enough to be preserved from falling, but may I always go forward, always abounding in the work Thou givest me to do. Strengthen me by Thy Spirit in my inner self for every purpose of my Christian life. All my jewels I give to the shadow of the safety that is in Thee—my name anew in Christ, my body, soul, talents, character, my success, wife, children, friends, work, my present, my future, my end. Take them, they are Thine, and I am thine, now and for ever.
Rest well tonight in God's refuge!!!
Love you much, Les
emily, i'm glad you guys had a good weekend. i have been praying and will keep doing so. i love you all so much...
can't wait till i get to see you all again...
love,
beth
Good night, God Bless and thanks for the good update. To read it, it seems that you are just continuing on...but oh the strength to continue, I know you need to do these things, but you are doing them so well. I am grateful for your friends and family there. Love, MOM
I think we have all felt at one time or another like the world has just stopped inside for us and no matter how brave we act or don't act, we always are amazed at how life just goes on. However, there is nothing even close to mediocre about what you are going through and not a soul in the world who is completely honest that would perceive it that way if they stopped and really let it sink in....so, I can only imagine how it must feel very surreal that life just goes on.
Very few of us have been where you all are right now, but we have all had those moments where we were very sure that life would never be the same again (even if the feeling passed more quickly than we thought or if the feeling passed quicker for those around us than we thought it should). I remember being so frustrated after September 11th thinking that things would never be "normal" again...and yet, normal returned in very short order.
Just know that God holds every tear you all shed in His hands and that He is right there with you through every step of this. Though we are called to have faith and be strong, God understands and cares about how weak we are.
So, in the moments when you feel like things shouldn't be "normal" and they are, know that God is your refuge and that He does not ever accept our pain as normal nor is He distracted from our heartbreak.
Also, realize that you are doing such a brilliant job just going on with everything as usual that sometimes it is easy to forget how hard this all has to be to walk through.
Love,
Caroline
I think we have all felt at one time or another like the world has just stopped inside for us and no matter how brave we act or don't act, we always are amazed at how life just goes on. However, there is nothing even close to mediocre about what you are going through and not a soul in the world who is completely honest that would perceive it that way if they stopped and really let it sink in....so, I can only imagine how it must feel very surreal that life just goes on.
Very few of us have been where you all are right now, but we have all had those moments where we were very sure that life would never be the same again (even if the feeling passed more quickly than we thought or if the feeling passed quicker for those around us than we thought it should). I remember being so frustrated after September 11th thinking that things would never be "normal" again...and yet, normal returned in very short order.
Just know that God holds every tear you all shed in His hands and that He is right there with you through every step of this. Though we are called to have faith and be strong, God understands and cares about how weak we are.
So, in the moments when you feel like things shouldn't be "normal" and they are, know that God is your refuge and that He does not ever accept our pain as normal nor is He distracted from our heartbreak.
Also, realize that you are doing such a brilliant job just going on with everything as usual that sometimes it is easy to forget how hard this all has to be to walk through.
Love,
Caroline
Still praying for a complete healing.
In His Love,
Maryann P.
Dear Emily and James,
You somehow managed to turn that anxiety-ridden period of waiting for Alivia's lab results last week into a diversion for her--nothing short of heroic that you can put your own feelings aside in order to protect hers.
Cousin Margot forwarded that now famous Portrait in Blue (Yogurt) of Alivia to Cousin Caroline who in turn forwarded it to me, and so it goes with our prayers, to. She is very real and close to all of us, and thanks for all your help keeping her there with your faithful updates on her progress. Love, Vivian
"Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy".
Psalms 126:5
Thinking of you today....
Love,
Caroline
Hey Haughery Family,
I continue to pray for each of you and specifically for a miracle with regards to Livi's health. Love you, Maureen
Em,
I have to say that I am equally encouraged not only to read your blog daily but also the comments everyone leaves. They encourage my heart, too, and I find myself in need often. You are doing an amazing job; wish I could see it more up close and learn even more from you. WIsh I could give you a hug, too, and just have a good cry with you. I may not be good for that, but I sure can cry with the best of them. (hope you're laughing b/c you know how true that is!)
I have a little something for Livi if I ever get to the post office (doesn't happen very often w/ the boys in tow).
You know all about busy husband syndrome, but if mine ever has any time to take off and release me, I'd like to make a trip to see ya'll. I'll be sure to let you know if that ever materializes! :)
Ikea with the Spinettis sounds like good medicine. And who can beat a good monsoon? I mean, really!
One day you will look back on these days and see how much you've grown and how present God is/was in all it. I know you're seeing that in small ways now, but wait until you see if all clearly on the other side!
Praying for you today!
Julie
dear emily,
as i was reading your entry today, i felt impressed to encourage you that your life is going just as it was planned. it is easy to look into the windows of others and think that their life is going on as "normal."
we have all been sovereignly given trials in this life to bring us to a place where we truly acknowledge our own inabilities. we are weak vessels in need of God's direction and perspective.the "highway lane" that He has given you is perfect for you. it is what he is using to mold your character as a wife and mother, and to minister to those who visit your blog.
i would challenge you to keep your eyes focused on what God has for you during this season. it is obvious that He has an agenda. in reading your blog, i've seen you lay your heart out to God, grow in faith, embrace every moment to the fullest with james and alivia, encourage others, and express a grateful heart to those who have blessed you.
no emily, i believe that you are accelerating on the same "highway" the rest of us are on. the means in which God is using as our mode of transportation on this highway may be different, but our highways have not divided. you have not taken a wrong exit. keep on driving. the paths may have bends and sharp curves, but remember you ultimately are not the driver, you are the passenger. fasten your seatbelt and take a deep breath. trust His sovereignty for He never makes mistakes!
scripture commands us not to be anxious for tomorrow but to focus on today. tomorrow will take care of itself tomorrow. for today, seek Him earnestly. continue to bless you daughter as an example of a godly mother. enjoy the leadership and care of james.
my dear friend, God has brought you to a place where He will receive glory, honor, and praise in the midst of your trial. keep driving... you are doing well!
praying for God's perfect will and healing.
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